Relationship 101

It was a fantastic weekend, and now...here I sit at 7:47 so confused. 



What time is it????? This whole fall back hour has thrown me for a heck of a loop. It was 6:30 and I promise it felt like 8:30. So. Confused. 


It was a quick weekend for us, a quick 24 hour trip that was a 10 hour drive. Trust me, you'll hear all about that later this week. Good news, we attended a beautiful wedding, got to see some of our favorite friends, and now we have a new married couple to hang out with in Atlanta! Woo! 


Let's get this week kicked off right. Some time in October I was a guest blogger over at EmCain, you must go check her blog out! And she had asked me to talk a little about relationships. 


First of all, I titled this post Relationships 101, but hello people, I am no expert. I am clueless, but I know what has worked for us and of course I want to share with you all :) So, in case you missed that post, I thought I'd feature it here! 


Cheers to a brand new week!! I just love that about Monday's :) we get to start all over! xoxo.


*I am so sorry about the font and spacing of this blog below, I have no clue what happened!
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I’m not married and I’m not engaged...but I have been in a relationship, for the past 6 years. Long time, right? :) So while I may not be picking out bridesmaid dresses or finding the perfect spot for our “I do’s” I do have a thing or two to share with you!


I’ve brainstormed and brainstormed about this blog. I’ve put a lot of pressure on myself. Hello, you’ve been with this guy for 6 years, surely you have some advice. But I think the thing I have learned most as I get older...is there is always more to learn. 
So let’s make this simple...these are the most important things that I want to share with you. These are things that if I don’t tell you about them, well...I just won’t be able to sleep. Okay, maybe that was a bit dramatic. I’m quite a good sleeper :) 
Anywho...here goes it...
1. Differences. Boy, oh boy...are there differences in all and any relationship. Hello, you are two COMPLETELY different people trying to make a life together. Learn that there will be differences, and guess what? That is A-Okay! Take Charlie and me for example. I’ve got quite a loud personality, I’d talk your ears off if you gave me a chance and I welcome just about anybody in to my circle of friends without even thinking twice. Charlie, is not shy...but he’s not going to be your best friend the first time he meets you, and when we walk in to a room, he gladly lets me talk. Which honestly, is something I love about him. Could you imagine if we both talked all the time? Lord, we’d be sick of each other. Charlie is logical and realistic, I am totally unrealistic...when I’m reaching just a little too far beyond what is possible, he pulls me back down to earth.The best part about our differences? They fit in to one perfect way of life. What I love most about him, is that I know with me he is completely himself. Not everyone gets to see the Charlie that I get to spend all my time with...and that is just fine by me. 



1. Differences brings me to my next “lesson”...Compromise. I just recently moved in with Charlie, and compromise has become by best friend. He likes to watch lots and lots and lots of Football, don’t get me wrong, I like football A LOT (GO CLEMSON TIGERS!!!!!!!)...but nothing beats my TV shows. Charlie likes to sleep with the TV on, and I like it completely dark and silent. The list goes on, but I won’t bore you with that. The point is...you have to compromise. If you love the person you’ve decided to spend your life with, then giving up a TV show is probably going to end up ok. And learning to fall asleep without the TV on is probably a sacrifice you can make. I must admit, I think Charlie is more of the compromiser in this relationship. That sweet boy would do anything in the world for me, as I would him...but when it comes to the little things here and there he is always willing to take the first step towards compromise. God bless him. 

1. Team work. Preach it, sister!! This is huge for me right now. There are days where I don’t feel like doing something, and there are days where all Charlie wants to do is sit on the couch. We have found quite a team work in this relationship, and for that I am so so thankful. We pick up each other’s slack on each other’s off days. And more importantly, when I’m having the...known too well, “off” day he puts forth every effort to put a smile on my face. I’m so thankful for that. Team work! WOO! 



1. Best friend. Don’t keep secrets. If anything has happened over these past 5 months of living together it’s that I tell this boy everything. Every. Single Thing. I told him something last night, that I know good and well was just TMI for his boy self...but he’s my best friend. Good news is, even after the TMI he still loves me today. Amen. 



The truth is...I don’t think there is a single soul out there who knows every thing about relationships. I certainly don’t. But I do know my heart is overflowing for the boy I get to call mine and I wouldn’t know what to do without him. I'm so lucky I get to do this thing called life with him! 
Everyday won’t be perfect, and there will be days you look at your other half and want to beat your head against the wall (I don’t ever do that! Ha!) but those days are few and far between compared to the days that I look at him and know that he’s the one I want to spend my life with. Remember those sweet memories on days where you’re suffering just to hang on for one more minute. Hang on to happiness when you find it. Your heart knows what’s right. Always be sure that part is happy :)